I know – the title is a little out there but, anyone who has had the awful experience of having been betrayed – whether emotional or otherwise – can most likely relate to the analogy. Of course, we all react differently to life experiences so there are exceptions, but for now, I’d like to reach out to those who – like Julius Caesar – were stunned by the actions of someone they trusted.
I suppose the difference is that poor Julius Caesar never had the chance to overcome that shock. So here’s this great Roman general and statesman whose last emotion was the shock of what his friend had done. Julius Caesar suffered betrayal in the most brutal way.
Perhaps the betrayal in our lives was not as brutal, but the shock is nonetheless very real. The evil thing (that’s what I like to call it!) about betrayal, is that the shock can be debilitating. The end of a relationship is difficult enough – there may be a change of family, friends, finances even lifestyle – but betrayal adds a greater burden.
I call it the “evil” of betrayal, because it has this insidious way of bringing into question your own self-worth and your ability to make sound judgements, despite the fact that you were not the one who “did this awful thing”. So in a way, a person betrayed is a victim twice – once as a person deceived and then again – a victim to the overwhelming, self-defeating emotions that knock you down and drag you under.
No one is perfect – there’s no question about that – but everyone deserves respect and betrayal is a most offensive form of disrespect. And yet, the person betrayed, erroneously takes on the burden of the betrayal.
The journey to healing is no doubt different for everyone, but I wish I had done a few things differently to hasten that journey. It was not an easy decision to start up this blog as I am rather private about such things…but if any thought shared here can help someone else…then it will have been worth it.
I discuss this further in my audio posting – which has yet to be posted as I am having a few technical difficulties (which is a nice way of saying I’m technically challenged!) …but with any luck it should be uploaded in the next few days. I apologize for the delay…
Have a Blessed day! Roe
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Thank you again for sharing !